{"id":45,"date":"2022-11-29T11:12:15","date_gmt":"2022-11-29T11:12:15","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/pcrest.com\/blog\/?p=45"},"modified":"2022-11-29T11:14:35","modified_gmt":"2022-11-29T11:14:35","slug":"self-growth-tip-owning-decisions","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.pcrest.com\/blog\/2022\/11\/29\/self-growth-tip-owning-decisions\/","title":{"rendered":"Self-Growth Tip: Owning Decisions"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<blockquote class=\"wp-block-quote is-layout-flow wp-block-quote-is-layout-flow\">\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Darling, you got to let me know<br>Should I stay or should I go?<br>If you say that you are mine<br>I&#8217;ll be here &#8217;till the end of time<br>So you got to let me know<br>Should I stay or should I go?<\/p>\n<cite>The Clash<\/cite><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">We&#8217;re all familiar with this feeling of frustrated helplessness (&#8220;you got to let me know&#8221;) that accompanies waiting for someone <em>else <\/em>to make a decision that dictates what will happen to us, determines what we must do, and affects how happy we&#8217;ll be.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">We make choices on the basis of our values. Others do the same. And just as we would not want others to insist we share their values, we cannot insist that they share ours. What we <strong>can<\/strong> do is step up and accept that a big part of being responsible for the quality of our own life is <strong>owning our decisions<\/strong> (and their consequences) and allowing others to do the same.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">This is rarely neat and easy; no man is an island, after all, and almost every decision <strong>we <\/strong>make affects <strong>others <\/strong>as well. So we must figure out who is affected by the choices we make and recognize that their involvement means we owe them some degree of consideration; we should be aware of their preferences, listening to their desires and wishes. This consideration is mutual: When someone else must make a decision that affects us, we want them to know that what they decide matters to us and what our preferences are.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">So, while it will never get the same sort of traction in the musical world, more healthy lyrics would be,<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-text-align-center wp-block-paragraph\">&#8220;Darling, let&#8217;s talk about what we both want<br>Then accept ownership of the decisions we both make.&#8221;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">It may be awful as lyrics go, but it <strong>IS <\/strong>the saner approach to decisions, relationships, and how we can best attend to the quality of life for ourselves and those we care about.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Darling, you got to let me know<br \/>\nShould I stay or should I go?<br \/>\nIf you say that you are mine<br \/>\nI&#8217;ll be here &#8217;till the end of time<br \/>\nSo you got to let me know<br \/>\nShould I stay or should I go?<br \/>\n(The Clash)<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":46,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"image","meta":{"_jetpack_newsletter_access":"","_jetpack_dont_email_post_to_subs":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_tier_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paywalled_content":false,"fifu_image_url":"","fifu_image_alt":"","_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":"","jetpack_publicize_message":"","jetpack_publicize_feature_enabled":true,"jetpack_social_post_already_shared":false,"jetpack_social_options":{"image_generator_settings":{"template":"highway","default_image_id":0,"font":"","enabled":false},"version":2},"jetpack_post_was_ever_published":false},"categories":[2],"tags":[19,16,20,10],"class_list":["post-45","post","type-post","status-publish","format-image","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-self-growth-tips","tag-decisions","tag-opportunity","tag-ownership","tag-quality","post_format-post-format-image"],"jetpack_publicize_connections":[],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.pcrest.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/11\/arrows.jpg?fit=900%2C600&ssl=1","jetpack_likes_enabled":true,"jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.pcrest.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/45","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.pcrest.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.pcrest.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.pcrest.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.pcrest.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=45"}],"version-history":[{"count":2,"href":"https:\/\/www.pcrest.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/45\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":48,"href":"https:\/\/www.pcrest.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/45\/revisions\/48"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.pcrest.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/46"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.pcrest.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=45"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.pcrest.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=45"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.pcrest.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=45"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}